How to Change to Become a Better Person: Making Changes in Your Life For Personal Development
If you want development, you need change.
Whether the development we are talking is related to the infrastructure development in the community, society, and the country, or the development of your personality, you need change. Development is only possible through change.
How to Change to Become a Better Person
Without shedding your old self, you cannot develop. In other words, if you want to improve, you need to change. If you want to change, you need to understand what changes you actually want.
In order to see the whole picture you will have to stand at a certain distance. Have you ever tried looking at a painting very close, one or two inches away, for example? When you are too close, you cannot see the painting. You move little farther away, and then only you can see the beauty of the painting.
At a certain point in our life we want to change because our old self is not helping us. We want to develop ourselves, unleash our inner power, unlock our personal development power. Sadly, we don’t know how to do this. Everything is right under our nose, but our vision is blurred, we cannot see what it is.
We don’t think about personal development until things get worse. Let me illustrate this with an example.
Place a frog inside boiling water. He will immediately jump off the pot. He cannot sustain water temperature. Place the same frog in lukewarm warm water and then turn on the heat. The frog will not get away immediately, he will continue to absorb the temperature.
We are like that frog. We have been in this situation for a long time, therefore, we cannot get away from this immediately. We will continue to absorb the heat and at one point we die. Some people are rigid, they do not want to change. If you are on the same shoes, look another way around, you might find a brave new world waiting for you.
What Hinders Our Growth
One of the problems that hinder our growth is conflict. Conflict is common in life, however, what is uncommon is always being in conflicting situation and not trying to solve the conflict.
A few simple steps will help minimize conflict. You should never overreact because overreaction will always worsen the situation as there is a reaction for every action. You get angry with your spouse/kid/sibling, they will return anger. When anger meets anger, there is always bitter conflict. You react after you develop certain perception, and you have to learn to understand the concept of actions and reactions. Don’t overreact during critical situations; instead, focus your perception for managing conflict. Every man and woman is a distinct individual, therefore, you will never be able to control your spouse’s, children’s, and siblings’ perception. When everyone begins to think only about his or her perception, obviously conflict will heighten.
We don’t need to perform feat, simple things will make us better person. Work in a gym instead of drinking in the parties, you will be healthy. Instead of watching porn, read books that will enlighten you. Porn will just arouse you and give you satisfaction for few seconds. However, books will broaden your vision. Instead of fuming alone, why don’t you join your friends and go for hiking or cycling. While doing these things, you are not only having fun but also taking steps towards the whole process of unlocking your personal development power. Little thing you do will help in your personal growth, you not only become an able person but also a happy individual.
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